A woman has taken to social media to share how her sister wants their parents to pay more towards her wedding than hers because 'gay weddings do not count as much as heterosexual ones'
A woman has shamed her sister who claims her wedding day isn't 'real' because it's between two women. The 28-year-old explained how she met her soon-to-be wife, Noa, 35, when she moved country for work.
Noa was newly divorced and was raising her five-year-old Lena alone after her husband "ran for the hills" after realising his now ex-wife was gay. After hitting it off, she decided to propose to Noa knowing she was "too nervous" to pop the question - and the pair have been planning their wedding over the last 10 months.
She said on Reddit: "It wasn’t extravagant I just asked her over dinner with Lena’s blessing. We’ve agreed we want it simple and intimate for the wedding. Her first wedding was big and she hated it. So just family and close friends. My parents have offered to give us some money to help toward it even though we’ve reassured them it isn’t going to be a big affair.
"But they wanted Lena to get a pretty flower girl dress and wanted to pay for my dress and whatever Noa will wear (probably a suit)." However, she says her "entitled younger sister", Kate, started kicking up a fuss about her upcoming wedding, wanting to know how much money their parents were going to put toward it.
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She added: "Kate, 25, acts like she and her boyfriend are engaged but he’s too scared to actually ask her. She’s the golden child, spoilt, and gets whatever she wishes. She’s made some remarks about Noa already having a child and being divorced but I told her to lose the ignorance. Just because she decided to stay in our small hometown and not expand her personality doesn’t mean she can say stuff like that.
"Over dinner last night she started whining about how I didn’t need any money and she didn’t know why we were bothering with a wedding when Noa has done it all before. But has suddenly decided she’s gay and wants to have another go at marriage with a woman. This is something Noa is insecure about so I get protective of her.
"Kate went on to say that she could resume her first wedding dress and started cackling. Her boyfriend looked embarrassed and my parents told her to be quieter but no one said anything else. My parents have come to me and said it made sense to them if they give more money to my sister's wedding fund as it will be her first and only wedding (not even engaged yet). Totally ignoring the fact that I’ve never been married."
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Annoyed, she told her parents to keep their money as it "wasn't welcome if they were going to shame my wife and stepdaughter". She added: "I do wonder if a little part of them feel a straight wedding deserves more funding than a gay one? Katie asked for the majority of what they’d offered me to be taken back and put away for her so that’s what they’ve said they will be doing. I never asked for the money in the first place.
"Also Katie said why did we even need a reception if there wasn’t going to be a bride and groom why have a normal wedding so yeah she doesn’t think a gay wedding should be as important." While most users praised her for turning down their money, others slammed her parents for picking favourites between their daughters.
One user said: "Right solution. Pay for it yourself if you can. And don't invite your sister." Another user added: "Are your parents forgetting that this is your first wedding? So what if it's Noa's second? She isn't their daughter yet. Their argument that this would be your spoiled rotten sister's first wedding is a moot point. If they can't see this, then yeah, they can shove their money where the sun doesn't shine. They shouldn't be too surprised if their invite ends up getting revoked too."
A third user said: " You and Noa need to take Lena to some lovely little family-friendly resort somewhere and do a destination elopement, just the three of you. Send your sister and your pathetic parents an email with a photo after the ceremony. Then when you come home, throw a party for your friends and don't include them."
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